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 1. Will my firm help me get an assessment for neurodivergence?

2. Should I disclose my neurodivergence?

3. How can I ask for adjustments?

4. Using Access to Work 

5. I want to encourage my employer to do more in the neurodiversity space, how can I do this?

6. I'm starting a new job, what could help me?

7. I'm having problems at work, but I don't want to raise a legal dispute, what can I do?

8. Navigating the traditional training contract - explore a range of topics and advice 

9. I'm a legal professional and I'm struggling with... 

  a. confidence 

  b. organisation

  c. communication and networking

  d. processing

Welcome to self-advocacy corner

 

This section is all about the messy, complicated, often unspoken side of navigating work as a neurodivergent person in the legal profession. It shares tips, reflections and real-life strategies on how to advocate for yourself in environments that might not have been built with you in mind.


You will find ideas on managing conversations, setting boundaries, asking for adjustments and handling the emotional weight that often comes with being different in a professional setting. These aren’t rules or prescriptions. They are tools and insights, shaped by lived experience, that you can take or leave depending on what fits your situation.


The aim is to make you feel less alone, not to tell you what to do.



This section does not contain legal advice. It is not intended to be used as a guide in any employment dispute or legal claim. The content reflects personal experiences and general tips, not legal guidance.


If you are facing a specific workplace issue or need support with a dispute, please speak to a qualified employment solicitor or legal adviser. A separate section of this website covers general information about your legal rights at work.


 

The tips and insights shared in this section come from a mix of sources. Much of it is based on the lived experiences of our members, as well as the professional experiences of neurodivergent people working in or alongside the legal profession.


We also draw on what we’ve learned through our wider work with law firms, businesses and individuals navigating these systems in real time. While it’s not legal advice, it’s grounded in real interactions, common patterns and practical approaches that have helped people advocate for themselves in a profession that doesn’t always make it easy.


 Yes! We welcome submissions and you will be credited. Please email us outreach@ndlawyerproject.org.uk with a proposed topic/title and we will approve or discuss how we can incorporate your topic. Please ensure submissions are no longer than 500 words and do not overly favour one particular viewpoint. We reserve the right to amend your submission, if deemed necessary. 


Some law firms do support employees in accessing a diagnostic assessment for neurodivergence, but this is not standard across the profession. Where support is available, it usually comes through one of the following routes:


1. Private health insurance

Some firms offer private health insurance as part of your benefits package. In a few cases, this can be used to cover or contribute to the cost of an autism or ADHD assessment. What is included will depend on the provider and the specific policy your firm has chosen. Some providers only fund assessments if they are linked to mental health difficulties or another specific referral route.


If your firm offers private healthcare, you can check the policy documents or ask HR for a copy of the mental health coverage details. If you are not comfortable disclosing why you are asking, you can frame it as a general question about what is included.


2. Occupational health referral

Some firms will refer employees to occupational health services if you disclose difficulties that are impacting your work. An occupational health report will not diagnose you, but it may suggest that you seek a full assessment and can recommend adjustments in the meantime. In some cases, this referral process can be a stepping stone to securing funding or support for a diagnosis later.


3. Internal disability or wellbeing support

In some firms, the disability or neurodiversity staff network, HR team, or mental health first aiders may help you explore the possibility of getting assessed. While they usually will not organise the assessment directly, they may help you find information, advocate on your behalf, or flag up support routes you were not aware of.


Examples of firms that have publicly mentioned support


Some firms have publicly shared that they have supported individuals in accessing diagnostic assessments, often through private healthcare or case-by-case support. These include:


  • Linklaters and Clifford Chance — through private health cover and wellbeing support routes
     
  • Browne Jacobson — via public statements about supporting neurodivergent staff, including access to assessments
     
  • Pinsent Masons — in interviews, some staff have mentioned being supported to pursue a diagnosis while at the firm


Please note that this support is not guaranteed for every employee, and it is often based on individual circumstances. The firm may also have limits on what they can fund or how they handle referrals.


What if my firm does not offer assessment support?


If your firm does not offer direct access to an assessment, you still have options:


  • You can still ask. Some firms will consider funding a private assessment on a case-by-case basis, especially if you explain how it relates to your ability to work effectively.
     
  • You can look into self-referral routes or NHS pathways, though waiting lists can be long.
     
  • You can request workplace adjustments without a formal diagnosis. If you are able to describe your needs and how they affect you at work, some firms will agree to put changes in place even without a report.
     


Should I disclose my neurodivergence?

There is no single right answer to this. Whether or not to disclose is a personal decision that depends on your circumstances, role, and workplace culture.


You may wish to read other neurodivergent lawyers’ experiences in the Submissions tab. However, it’s important to remember that these are individual stories shaped by many different factors, and what worked for someone else may not necessarily work for you.


Other sources of help:


1. Employee resource groups (ERGs) or staff networks
If your workplace has a disability or neurodiversity network, you may be able to speak to others confidentially. Some offer peer support, buddy systems, or informal advice on how disclosure is received internally.


2. Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC)
The EHRC publishes clear guidance on your rights under the Equality Act 2010, including the duty to make reasonable adjustments and protections from discrimination.
www.equalityhumanrights.com


3. ACAS (Advisory, Conciliation and Arbitration Service)
ACAS offers practical and accessible information on your rights at work. It includes guidance on disability, workplace adjustments, and how to raise concerns if needed.
www.acas.org.uk


4. Employment tribunal decisions or case law
For those in the legal profession, reviewing anonymised tribunal decisions (for example through GOV.UK or BAILII) may offer insight into how the law has been interpreted in real-life workplace scenarios involving disclosure or adjustments.


5. Occupational health referrals
Some employers offer occupational health services. These are usually confidential and may help identify adjustments without needing to share full details directly with your manager or team.


6. Charities and advocacy organisations
Organisations such as Neurodiversity in Law, Neurodiversity Celebration Week, the National Autistic Society, ADHD UK, and Disability Rights UK often provide resources, toolkits and guidance on disclosure and workplace inclusion.


7. Diagnostic professionals
If you are in the process of being diagnosed or already have a diagnosis, you may be able to ask your clinician for advice on what workplace support might help. This can also help clarify whether your condition is likely to meet the legal definition of disability.


8. Legal advice
If you are experiencing problems at work, it may be helpful to seek independent legal advice from a solicitor or advice centre specialising in employment or discrimination law.


Unfortunately, disclosing your neurodivergence can come with risks. These may include:


  • Being treated differently by colleagues, including infantilisation, exclusion, bullying, or doubts about your intelligence or competence. 
  • Stalled career progression, being passed over for opportunities, or difficulties securing promotion. 


Research supports this. A 2022 report by Birkbeck and GatenbySanderson found that neurodivergent professionals often face significant barriers to progression, largely due to misunderstanding, stigma, and limited workplace support. But this can depend upon your firm and team.


1. To access reasonable adjustments (RAs)


While you are not strictly required to disclose your neurodivergence to receive reasonable adjustments under the Equality Act 2010 (please take legal advice before relying on this), disclosure often makes the process much more straightforward.


Things to consider:


  • Whether your employer has a clear policy on reasonable adjustments, or a staff network you can speak to.
     
  • Whether others at your workplace have successfully accessed support.
     
  • The likelihood of your adjustments being implemented in practice. Some firms may agree to adjustments in theory but fail to follow through due to lack of understanding or inconsistent processes.


Our members have shared examples of both good and bad experiences. Some found that adjustments transformed their working life. Others found that adjustments were misunderstood as “hand-holding” or “unfair advantages”, which negatively impacted how they were treated by colleagues or managers. In some cases, disclosing before an interview and requesting adjustments has led to interview offers being withdrawn or communication being cut off.


When adjustments are implemented correctly, they can be a vital tool. For example, if you process information differently, transcription software might help with meetings or note-taking. If focus is a challenge, small environmental or scheduling changes can help you thrive.


2. To explain traits that might otherwise be misunderstood


Some people choose to disclose because their traits are misinterpreted without context. For example:


  • An autistic person who communicates directly might be seen as abrupt.
     
  • A person with ADHD might be perceived as disorganised or unreliable.
     

This can result in unfair labels such as being “difficult” or “not a team player”, which can affect both workplace relationships and promotion prospects. In some workplaces, disclosure can reframe this narrative in a more accurate and constructive way. In others, difference is accepted without explanation.


Many people, however, choose not to disclose and that is completely valid too. You might view your diagnosis as private. You might be concerned about how others will respond. Several of our members have said that after disclosing ADHD or ADD, colleagues began to treat them as lazy or chaotic, regardless of their actual performance.


Others disclose from a sense of pride or a desire to be open. Some want to challenge stigma by being visible. Others feel empowered by embracing their neurodivergence, or want to show that it’s possible to succeed in law without hiding who you are. That said, disclosure is not the only way to do any of these things.


Some law firms have formal processes or policies for disclosure and adjustments. This can be reassuring and show that the firm is thinking ahead, but for some, the process can feel overly formal or uncomfortable, especially if it involves unfamiliar HR staff.


In these cases, it can be helpful to:


  • Speak first to a trusted manager or senior colleague.
     
  • Ask if they can pass on information to HR on your behalf.
     
  • Look for internal guidance, even if it doesn’t specifically mention neurodivergence.
     

If no policy exists, this can understandably make disclosure feel more daunting. We’ve included suggestions on navigating informal disclosure elsewhere on the page.


Your personal view of your neurodivergence will naturally shape how you feel about disclosure and support.


Some people feel that asking for reasonable adjustments takes away from the sense that they have achieved everything on their own. They may prefer not to draw attention to themselves, or feel more comfortable managing things independently. For some, this can also stem from a desire to avoid being seen as different or less capable. These are completely valid feelings, and no one is ever required to disclose.


At the same time, it is worth noting that some of these views may be shaped by past experiences or wider messaging. For example:


  • You may have been told from a young age that using support in exams made your success less valid.
     
  • You may have absorbed the idea that adjustments are a form of special treatment.
     
  • You may feel pressure to “prove yourself” without support, even if this is unsustainable.
     

Some people prefer to implement their own strategies. For instance, someone with ADHD might use timers, calendars or productivity tools and find these work well for them without needing formal adjustments. If this approach is manageable and works for you, that’s a perfectly valid choice too.


It’s a deeply personal decision. What feels right for one person may not feel right for another.


Lastly, while you do not need to always disclose your neurodivergence to be protected under the Equality Act 2010, in practice, disclosure often makes it easier to access adjustments and assert your rights. It helps create a clear record that your employer was aware, which can be important if problems arise later.



  • How open is your employer to flexible working or workplace adjustments in general?
     
  • Are there other colleagues who are open about being neurodivergent? Could you speak to any of them about their experiences?
     
  • Does your employer have a clear policy or process for disclosing a disability or requesting adjustments?
     
  • Are there staff networks or internal support groups that could offer guidance?
     
  • Do you feel able to speak to someone senior or in HR about this confidentially?
     
  • What support would make your day-to-day work easier, and is it something you could reasonably ask for?
     
  • How do you personally feel about your neurodivergence and the idea of being open about it in a work setting?
     
  • Have you had experiences in the past (positive or negative) with disclosure that are influencing how you feel now?
     
  • Would disclosing improve your ability to explain certain traits or working styles that others might otherwise misinterpret?
     
  • If you choose not to disclose, do you have ways of managing or self-accommodating that feel sustainable?
     
  • What are the potential risks and benefits of disclosing in your specific team, department, or firm?
     
  • Are you in a position where legal protections might matter, and if so, would formal disclosure help clarify your rights?


 

Asking for adjustments can feel daunting, especially when you’re new to the role or unsure how things work behind the scenes. But most law firms do have systems in place, even if they’re not particularly easy to find or understand.


Here’s a step-by-step guide based on what law firms tend to do in practice:


1. Check if your firm has a policy


Some firms have an internal adjustments policy, though it’s usually buried in the HR or people team section of the intranet. Others may not have anything written down but still follow an informal process.


You can look for key words like:

  • “Reasonable adjustments” 
  • “Disability or health support”
  • “Wellbeing” or “inclusion policies”
  • “Occupational health” or “OH referrals”


If you can’t find anything, it’s completely fine to ask. You could say:

“Is there a process for requesting workplace adjustments or getting support for health or neurodivergence-related needs?”

If you don’t feel comfortable asking HR straight away, you could speak to your supervisor or someone in a staff network who may know how the process works.


2. Understand how law firms usually handle this


In many firms, once you flag a need for adjustments, you’ll be referred to occupational health. This is fairly standard and is not about assessing whether you’re “disabled enough”, it’s a way of getting an independent report on what adjustments might help.


Here’s how it usually works:


  • You have a short meeting (online or in person) with an occupational health professional
  • They ask questions about what you’re finding difficult, any diagnosis you may have, and what helps you
  • They write a report with recommendations for adjustments (e.g., flexible hours, noise-cancelling headphones, written instructions, longer deadlines where possible)


This report goes to HR or the relevant people team, who usually discuss it with you and your manager before implementing anything.


It can feel clinical or uncomfortable, and the level of understanding and knowledge can differ depending upon which external organisation is used.


3. Think about what you actually need


Try to reflect on what tasks or situations make your role harder, and what has helped in the past. This could include:


  • More notice for deadlines or meetings
  • A quieter working space or permission to work from home a couple of days a week
  • Clear written instructions instead of verbal ones
  • Adjustments to performance reviews or supervision styles
  • The option to wear noise-cancelling headphones or take sensory breaks
     
  • If you’re not sure what you need yet, you can say that too:

“I’ve been finding some parts of the role difficult but I’m still working out exactly what would help. Would it be possible to speak to someone or go through the adjustments process to explore options?”

4. Put something in writing


It helps to follow up in writing, especially after a chat with your supervisor or HR. This doesn’t need to be formal or legal, something short and practical is enough:

“Thanks for the chat earlier. Just to confirm, I’d like to explore some adjustments to support me at work. Happy to go through any formal process or referral if needed.”

If it goes to occupational health, you can also ask to see the report before it’s sent to your manager or HR.


5. You’re allowed to ask again


Adjustments are meant to evolve with your needs. If something isn’t working, or things change over time, you’re allowed to go back and revisit the process. That might mean updating an occupational health report, having a review meeting or suggesting a new adjustment.


This is normal, especially in law, where different teams or deadlines can impact how accessible things feel.


6. You don’t need to have all the answers


It’s okay to say, “I’m not sure what I need but I know I’m struggling.” You don’t have to figure it all out on your own. A good HR team or manager will work with you to explore what’s possible.


 

Access to Work is a government scheme that helps fund extra support to make your job more accessible. It’s for disabled people, including many neurodivergent people, and can be a lifeline, especially in workplaces that aren’t always set up with you in mind.


You can apply whether you’re employed, self-employed, part-time, in a training contract or even working remotely. You don’t need a formal diagnosis, but you do need to explain how your neurodivergence or health needs affect you at work.


What can it cover?


Access to Work can pay for:

  • Assistive technology (e.g. speech-to-text, screen readers)
     
  • Specialist coaching, ADHD or autism support
     
  • Noise-cancelling headphones or sensory tools
     
  • Travel to work (if public transport isn’t accessible)
     
  • A support worker or job aide
     
  • Mental health support (usually six sessions)
     
  • Communication support for meetings
     

It’s not there to replace your firm’s legal duties, it’s meant to add extra support on top, especially when your needs go beyond what your employer is used to providing.


How it works when you’re employed


This is the part that gets messy.


In theory:


  1. You apply online
     
  2. You have an assessment
     
  3. A report is written recommending support
     
  4. Access to Work agrees to fund that support
     
  5. It’s put in place quickly and smoothly
     

In practice, especially in law firms:


  • You often have to organise everything yourself


You might be asked to research equipment suppliers, find coaches, collect quotes, and manage the back-and-forth with HR and Access to Work. This can feel like another job on top of your actual job.
 

  • Funding is usually paid in arrears.


That means your employer pays upfront, then claims it back. Some firms are supportive. Others delay, or expect you to pay and wait for reimbursement. This isn’t realistic for many people.
 

  • There are delays.


It’s common to wait several months to get the assessment, and even longer for funding decisions. If you’re already struggling, that delay can make things worse.
 

  • Some support isn’t fully covered.


For example, you might be approved for coaching, but only at a capped rate. If your preferred coach charges more, you or your employer may have to cover the difference.
 

  • It depends how informed your firm is.


Some law firms are familiar with Access to Work and will help you apply or cover costs up front. Others haven’t heard of it, or might treat it like a hassle. You might need to explain how it works and why it’s separate from internal adjustments.
 

What you can do

  • Apply early, don’t wait until things become unmanageable.
     
  • Keep written records of everything: emails, calls, reference numbers.
     
  • Ask for help, especially if your firm has a disability or neurodiversity network.
     
  • If your firm expects you to cover costs upfront and you can’t, tell Access to Work. They can arrange direct payments to suppliers in some cases.
     
  • If you’re worried about delays, you can still ask your firm for internal support while your application is being processed.
     

Where to get help


You don’t have to figure it all out alone.


  • Scope’s Access to Work Advice Line
    Free one-to-one support if you’re confused, facing delays or not sure how to challenge a decision.
    Visit Scope’s ATW support page
     
  • Autistic UK, Neurodivergent Self-Advocacy groups
    Many have guides, scripts and example application responses from people who’ve been through the process.
     
  • LawCare
    If the stress of navigating this system is affecting your wellbeing, LawCare offers free and confidential support for legal professionals.
    Visit LawCare
     


 

It can be frustrating when your firm talks about diversity in vague terms, but never mentions neurodiversity. Maybe there is no visible support. Maybe you are tired of seeing neurodivergence only mentioned once a year during Autism Awareness Week. Or maybe you just want to feel a bit less alone.


Here are some practical ways to encourage your employer to take neurodiversity seriously, without putting all the pressure on you.


1. Start small and specific


You do not need to suggest a full strategy. One concrete idea is enough. For example:

  • “Could we include something on neurodiversity in the next internal diversity event or newsletter?”
     
  • “Would we be open to hosting a speaker with lived experience of being neurodivergent in the legal profession?”
     
  • “Is there any internal data on how many staff have disclosed neurodivergence, and how that is being used?”
     

If your firm already has networks or a diversity committee, they might be open to hearing more. Even sharing a podcast, article or ND Lawyer Project resource (shameless plug!) can spark a conversation.


2. Find the right people to speak to


Progress is often slow because it is not clear who is responsible. You could check the intranet or ask around to find out:

  • Who leads on diversity and inclusion
     
  • Whether there is a disability or wellbeing champion
     
  • If the people or HR team deals with staff networks or support requests
     

You do not need to have everything figured out before speaking to someone. Just letting them know that staff are interested in this area can be helpful.


3. Connect with others


If you feel safe, try to find others who care about this too. Maybe someone else has asked for adjustments or mentioned support needs in passing. You do not have to build a network on your own. Sometimes it just starts with a few people having a chat or attending a meeting together.


You could also join events run by external neurodivergent-led organisations. Bringing that learning back to your firm can show what is possible.


4. Speak their language if you need to


Some employers only take action when there is a clear business case. That can feel frustrating, but if you think it might help, you could say:


  • “People are more likely to stay if they feel seen and supported.”
     
  • “This could help us recruit candidates who would otherwise be put off by traditional interviews.”
     
  • “Clients are starting to talk about this. We could be ahead of the curve.”
     

You are not reducing anyone to productivity. You are just using the tools available to make change more likely.


5. Share examples and external resources


Some firms genuinely do not know what good looks like. Sharing trusted resources can make things feel more achievable. These might include:


  • The ND Lawyer Project (us)
     
  • Neurodiversity in Law and the Legal Neurodiversity Network
     
  • The Law Society’s disability inclusion guidance and the Lawyer's with Disabilities Division
     
  • Events, blogs or podcasts by neurodivergent professionals
     

You could also ask if your firm would consider signing up to an initiative or becoming a partner with an existing group.


6. Set boundaries for yourself


You are not responsible for overhauling your firm’s entire culture. If you are burning out, feeling unsafe, or just do not have the capacity, that is completely valid. You do not have to disclose, lead a network or share personal stories to make change.


Sometimes the smallest actions, a shared article, a quiet suggestion, a one-line question in a meeting, are the ones that make space for someone else to speak up too.



Starting a new job can be overwhelming, especially if you’re neurodivergent. You might be dealing with unspoken expectations, information overload or sensory challenges on top of the usual nerves. These tips are designed to help you settle in, ask for support and protect your energy from day one.


1. (If you're dislclosing...) Ask for a reasonable adjustment or OH chat early on


If possible, try to speak to someone trained in adjustments before you start or during your first few days. This might be through HR, a people manager or occupational health. It helps to have support in place before things become difficult. You can also ask for a review meeting later once you’ve had time to settle in and notice what works or doesn’t.


2. Request a floor walk or structured introductions


If you’re working in person, ask if someone can show you around the office properly and help with introductions. Being walked around by someone, rather than sent off alone, can reduce anxiety and help you remember who people are and what they do.


3. Ask for training to be recorded or transcribed


This helps if you need time to process things or want to review information later. It can also reduce pressure to take everything in at once, especially if you’re tired or distracted. If something is visual or fast-paced, having it in a written format can make it easier to engage with.


4. Build up your workload gradually


You can ask for a phased start where your workload builds up over time. This might mean fewer hours of chargeable work or a lighter caseload while you get used to new systems and expectations. You could say something like, “It would really help me to ease in gradually while I learn how everything works.”


5. Clarify how and when to ask questions


Ask if there’s a preferred way to raise questions. Some teams have a clear structure, others are more informal. You can say, “I tend to ask a lot of clarification questions when I’m learning. Is it better to ask as I go or keep a list for check-ins?” This can help you avoid feeling like you’re being disruptive.


6. Explore coaching if it’s available


If your firm offers neurodiversity coaching or you can access it through something like Access to Work, it can be a really useful adjustment. Coaching can help you manage your wellbeing, build routines and develop ways of working that suit your brain. It’s especially helpful if you’re not used to corporate settings or find office culture confusing.


7. Check your sensory environment


If the office is open plan, loud or bright, see if you can speak to facilities or IT about alternatives. You might be able to reserve a quieter desk, wear noise-reducing headphones or use a separate space when needed. Some firms are happy to accommodate this but may not offer unless you ask.


8. Make a note of everything


Keep a log of what you’re told, what’s expected of you and who does what. This doesn’t have to be neat. It could be a list on your phone, a notebook or a document you update as you go. Having this kind of external memory can reduce anxiety and help when your brain is full.


9. Don’t stretch yourself too far too soon


You might feel pressure to say yes to everything or go to every social event. But starting a new job is already a big shift. Try not to overcommit just to seem keen. However, we recognise that this is often not the expectations of firms. it can be a balancing exercise. 


10. Work out who to disclose to (if anyone)


You don’t have to tell everyone you’re neurodivergent. But it can help to decide who you feel safe opening up to. That might be HR, a supervisor or a mentor. Disclosure doesn’t have to be all or nothing, you can choose what to share and when.


11. Look for support and mentorship


See if your firm has staff networks, buddy schemes or mentoring programmes. Even having one person you can check in with makes a huge difference. If there isn’t anything internal, you can also reach out to external groups like the ND Lawyer Project or join peer support spaces online.


  

1. Check your internal policies


Look on your firm’s intranet for:

  • The grievance or complaints procedure
     
  • The dignity at work or bullying and harassment policy
     
  • Reasonable adjustments or disability inclusion policies
     

These documents usually outline who to speak to, how to raise concerns informally and what the formal process looks like if you choose to escalate later. It helps to know your options, even if you don’t plan to use them right now.


2. Try an informal conversation first


Before anything formal, you can raise concerns informally with:


  • Your line manager
     
  • Someone in HR or the people team
     
  • A staff network lead or wellbeing contact
     
  • A trusted senior colleague
     

You could say something like:

“I’ve been finding X quite difficult and wanted to talk it through before deciding what to do next.”
This keeps it non-confrontational but puts it on their radar.

3. Keep your own records


Start a private log. Include:


  • Dates and times of difficult situations
     
  • What was said or done
     
  • What you did in response
     
  • Any requests for support and how they were handled
     

This is not about preparing for court. It’s about having your own clarity and evidence if you ever need to escalate things later.


4. Contact ACAS (free and confidential)


ACAS is a government-supported service that offers advice on workplace problems. They’re impartial and can help you:


  • Understand your rights
     
  • Work out your next steps
     
  • Mediate between you and your employer (without it becoming a legal dispute)
     

You can call their helpline or use the website chat. It’s free and you don’t need to take action just because you’ve asked a question.

Visit ACAS


5. Speak to someone outside work


This could be:

  • A union rep (if you have one)
     
  • A charity like LawCare (for legal professionals)
     
  • The ND Lawyer Project (for community advice and lived experience)
     
  • A therapist, coach or trusted mentor
     

You don’t have to figure it all out alone. A fresh perspective can help you see things more clearly.


6. Use alternative language if adjustments aren’t landing


If your workplace pushes back on the word “adjustments,” you can reframe it as a “working style preference” or a “productivity support”. 


For example:

“I find I concentrate much better if I use headphones for part of the day. Would it be okay to keep doing that?”
“Would it be possible to use written instructions rather than verbal ones where it makes sense to do so?”

This isn’t ideal, but it can be more effective in environments where legal terms make people defensive.


7. If things don’t improve, consider the grievance process


If informal routes haven’t helped and you want to flag something without going legal, you can submit a formal grievance. This is different from making a legal claim. A grievance is an internal process where you explain the problem and ask for it to be investigated.


You’ll usually need to:


  • Set out your concerns clearly in writing
     
  • Include dates, names and specific examples
     
  • Say what outcome you’re hoping for
     

This can feel heavy, so it helps to get support before deciding to go down this route.


Reminders that still matter


  • You are not being too sensitive
     
  • You are not imagining things
     
  • You are not weak for not wanting to fight
     
  • You are not alone
     

Sometimes survival means choosing peace over principle. Other times it means picking one issue to advocate for. Either way, you’re doing your best inside a system that was not built for you.

 



  

1. Pick your battles


Trying to challenge everything that feels unfair will wear you down. Speak up when it matters, especially when your progression, wellbeing or job security are at risk. You can’t fix the whole system. Focus on protecting your peace and energy.


3. Document everything


Keep a private log of what’s been said, what you’ve asked for and how you’ve been treated. This isn’t just for legal reasons. It helps you spot patterns, track progress and validate your own experience if things feel confusing or inconsistent.


4. Look for informal allies


Find one person you can check in with. That might be a mentor, a trusted colleague or someone from a staff network. Even a quiet message like “I’m finding things difficult, could I check something with you?” can make a big difference.


5. Focus on what you can influence


You might not be able to change your manager or how the organisation works. But you can still set boundaries, build in breaks, and create small workarounds that suit your brain. These might not solve everything, but they can soften the edges.


6. Redefine what success looks like


Some days, success is not quitting. It’s protecting your mental health, finishing one task or saying no to something that would have pushed you over the edge. You don’t need to thrive every day to be doing well.


8. You shouldn’t have to do any of this


None of this is your fault. We need better systems, better managers and real accountability. But if you’re staying, because you need the income, the structure or you care about the work, this is what survival can look like. This isn’t about masking. It’s about making it through in one piece.



Navigating the traditional training contract

 

Ensure your adjustments are in place from day one.


Firms often have some flexibility around how training is delivered. Examples of adjustments that may help include:


  • Having training sessions transcribed or recorded.
     
  • Remote attendance options or the ability to view pre-recorded materials.
     
  • Closed-captions or transcripts for video content.
     
  • Access to training materials in an accessible format (e.g. plain text, dyslexia-friendly fonts).
     
  • A single point of contact for questions or follow-up.
     
  • Coaching or additional support to reinforce training content.
     


 

Almost every trainee, neurotypical or otherwise, feels this way at some point. It’s normal not to know everything. You’re learning, and even when things feel overwhelming, that doesn’t mean you’re failing.


Remind yourself:


  • You were hired for a reason. You’re qualified to be here.
     
  • This is a training contract. You’re not expected to know everything yet.
     
  • Being proactive, asking questions, and showing interest goes a long way.
     



You won’t always control your time.


At first, it might feel like your time is no longer your own, especially if you’re in a high-pressure seat. Some firms expect you to be available long hours and put work above everything else. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t set boundaries.


Things that may help:


  • Build small grounding rituals into your day — even if it’s a 10-minute walk, messaging a friend, or a five-minute stim break.
     
  • Have non-negotiables when possible (e.g. a therapy session, a hobby class, a short workout).
     
  • Block out recovery time in advance (e.g. a quiet evening or a weekend day off), and communicate it early if needed.
     
  • Ask for consistent adjustments like a later start time, work-from-home days, or flexibility for medical or mental health appointments.
     


  

Seat changes can feel destabilising, just as you’ve got used to a team and your adjustments are working, everything resets.


To make transitions smoother:


  • Speak to people in the new department beforehand to get a feel for the seat.
     
  • Ask to see any handover or training materials in advance.
     
  • Talk to previous trainees to find out what the work is like day to day.
     
  • Communicate your needs and adjustments early, ideally before the seat begins.
     
  • Don’t assume the new team will know your needs, treat it as a fresh conversation.

     


   

Appraisal meetings (e.g. mid-seat or end-of-seat reviews) can feel stressful, especially if you’re unsure how feedback will be delivered or interpreted.


You can ask for adjustments here too:


  • Ask for the feedback to be written or structured (e.g. bullet points under “what’s going well” and “areas to develop”).
     
  • Request the opportunity to respond in writing afterwards if you need processing time.
     
  • If you’re likely to experience a stress response, consider bringing a stim toy or taking brief breaks.
     
  • If RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) or anxiety impacts you, speak to a mentor or coach beforehand about how to prepare emotionally.
     

It’s okay to advocate for a feedback style that works for you, this improves both how you receive the information and how you act on it.

 


Instruction meetings can be overwhelming, especially if your processing style doesn’t fit the ‘quick chat and go’ format. You’re expected to absorb information quickly, understand legal and commercial context, figure out what’s being asked (often from someone senior), and get started without much direction. For many neurodivergent trainees, that’s not realistic.


You’re not alone if you leave these meetings thinking, “I don’t actually know what they want.”


Why this matters:


  • Instructions are rarely given in a consistent format.
     
  • People often say “do this urgently” but give no clear deadline.
     
  • Language can be vague or figurative (“give it a polish”, “make it punchy”, “turn it around quickly”).
     
  • You may be given a complex task with no context, or ten minutes before a meeting without time to process it.
     
  • Some supervisors aren’t used to tailoring their communication — they’ve been trained to expect initiative and mind-reading.
     

Adjustments that may help


If you struggle with processing or structuring information, the following adjustments might be useful (and are all reasonable to ask for):


Before or during the meeting:


  • Ask for the instructions to be shared in writing before the meeting, where possible.
     
  • Ask to record the meeting or use live transcription software (e.g. Otter.ai or Microsoft Teams transcription).
     
  • Ask for extra time after meetings to summarise and clarify instructions before starting the task.
     
  • Ask for longer instruction meetings or short breaks during them, especially for large pieces of work.
     

After the meeting:


  • Follow up with a written confirmation of what you understood — ask for a quick review or reply to confirm.
     
  • Ask for examples of previous work, templates, or precedent documents to help ground abstract instructions.
     
  • Ask for clarification if the deadline is vague (e.g. “What time would you ideally like this back?” instead of “Is this urgent?”).
     
  • If instructions are always given verbally, request to have your team brief you in writing where possible.
     

A technique that may help: Structure your understanding using six questions


This is a practical method we’ve used and shared at NDLP. It helps bring clarity to complex or ambiguous instructions. After the meeting, use this to structure your notes or follow-up email.


  1. What is the task?
    What exactly am I being asked to do? Is it a draft? A review? A comparison? A summary?
     
  2. Why am I doing it?
    What is the purpose of the task? Is it to give advice to a client? Prepare for a pitch? Help someone internal?
     
  3. Who is it for?
    Who will see it? Will it go to a partner? Client? Knowledge team? Understanding the audience helps with tone and formatting.
     
  4. When is it needed?
    What is the real deadline? Do I need to allow time for a review? If someone says “as soon as possible”, ask “what time today or tomorrow would you ideally want it?”
     
  5. Where does it go?
    Should I email it to someone directly? Upload it to a shared folder? Is it being included in a bundle or submitted through a platform?
     
  6. How should I approach it?
    What is the tone, level of detail, or format expected? Bullet points? Legalese? Plain English? Formal memo? Short note?
     

You can use these as a checklist or even structure your follow-up message like this:

“Hi [name], just to confirm my understanding of the [X] task:
– What: draft a short note summarising X issue under Y regulation.
– Why: to support a response to the client’s query before their board meeting.
– Who: intended for the client’s in-house counsel team.
– When: ideally by 3pm tomorrow to allow time for partner review.
– Where: I’ll upload to the shared folder and notify you.
– How: written in bullet point format with references to FCA guidance.
Please let me know if I’ve misunderstood anything.”

Other ideas that can help in practice


  • Ask “What does a good version of this look like?” This helps you understand their expectations — and might prompt them to show you a precedent.
     
  • If they use vague feedback, ask for specifics. For example, “Could you clarify what you mean by ‘make it punchier’ — do you mean shorter sentences or more direct language?”
     
  • If you didn’t understand the task but are scared to say so, ask a peer. Trainees often help each other fill in context or templates.
     
  • Use a post-it or note system for unknown terms. If acronyms or jargon are thrown around (e.g. “we need this cleaned for CP”), note them down and ask a peer later or keep a reference sheet.
     
  • If the task is too large or open-ended, ask to break it into stages. For example, “Would it be helpful if I send a summary of my approach or key points before drafting the whole thing?”
     


 


    

Internal qualification - what to expect


Each firm handles this process slightly differently. Some are open about roles early on. Others leave you in the dark until offers are announced. The one consistent theme? It rarely feels transparent or accessible.


What to expect:


1. You will be asked to state your preferences

This might be a formal ranking form or just a vague chat with HR. You do not need to have it all figured out, but it helps to be clear on what matters to you. Think about what teams you’ve enjoyed, what kind of hours you can manage, and whether you’d consider moving teams or offices.


2. The business will decide what teams are hiring

Availability of NQ roles is often based on budgets and forecasts. Even if a team says they would love to keep you, they may have no headcount. Some teams will “hold out” for a lateral hire with more experience.


3. You may need to re-interview or submit something

Some firms make you reapply or write a business case. Others will have informal coffee chats. If interviews or assessments are involved, it is completely reasonable to request adjustments. Ask early and be clear about what you need.


4. You might not get your first choice or any offer at all

This happens more often than people think. It does not mean you were not good enough. Sometimes the space just is not there. Sometimes a partner has already decided. Sometimes it comes down to who got exposure to the right people at the right time.


The unspoken truth: it often feels political


This part of the process can be especially difficult if you are not comfortable with “visibility politics”.


Let’s be honest. A lot of trainees feel like they have to “arse lick” their way into an NQ role. You see people being strategic. Pushing for certain work. Making sure the right people know their name. That may come naturally to some, but if you are neurodivergent, it might feel awkward, draining, or completely inaccessible.


Maybe you do not know how to start small talk with a partner. Maybe you mask so heavily that networking leaves you exhausted. Maybe you are just not that good at putting yourself forward or “talking yourself up”. That is not a character flaw. It is a barrier.


If you are struggling with this, you are not alone. It is hard to advocate for yourself in a process that feels unclear and loaded with bias.


A few things that can help, if you feel able:


  • Let the team know you are interested. You do not have to say it in a clever way. Even a short message like “I really enjoyed my seat here and would love to stay on” does the job.
     
  • Ask someone you trust if they would be willing to advocate for you. Many trainees forget that having a partner or senior associate backing you can help.
     
  • If the process involves an application, ask for previous examples or guidance. Be clear about your strengths. You do not need to exaggerate, just be specific.
     

Adjustments that may help


Some helpful adjustments to ask for include:


  • A written outline of the NQ process and key dates
     
  • The interview questions or structure in advance
     
  • Longer time for any written assessments
     
  • Flexibility in format (for example, written responses instead of verbal presentations)
     

If you are asking for adjustments, try to ask as early as possible and follow up in writing. You do not need to disclose your diagnosis, but explaining how your needs affect you in this context can help the firm understand.


If you do not get an offer


It is hard. Even if you knew it was coming, it still hurts. You spend two years working hard, sometimes under difficult conditions, and it can feel incredibly unfair to walk away without a role. Sometimes the reasons are structural. Sometimes they are personal. Sometimes no one will tell you the real reason.


This does not mean you are not good at your job. You are still going to qualify, and you are still going to build a legal career that works for you.


Going external?


Check out our Job Hunting Corner for guidance on CVs, interviews, cover letters, applications and more, including tips on disclosing neurodivergence and asking for adjustments during external processes.


You are not alone in this part of the process either.
 


 


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Confidence is not always about mindset. Sometimes it’s about access, clarity and the right kind of support. Advice may differ depending upon your specific circumstances, but here is a few tips.


Tips and adjustments that may help:


  • Ask for a buddy or informal mentor so you have someone to check in with regularly
     
  • Request clear expectations for your role or tasks, written down where possible
     
  • Have regular check-ins where you can ask questions without judgement
     
  • Ask for strengths-based feedback that focuses on what you’re doing well
     
  • Keep a private list of positive feedback to look back on when you’re doubting yourself
     
  • Explore confidence-building coaching if that’s available through work or an adjustments process
     

You do not need to change who you are to feel confident. Sometimes confidence comes from being given the space to do things differently.


External sources of support


If things still feel heavy, these spaces may help:

  • LawCare - a free, confidential service for anyone working in law. They support with imposter syndrome, self-doubt and anxiety
     
  • Access to Work - may fund coaching or mentoring focused on confidence, communication and resilience
     
  • Your staff disability or neurodiversity network - if your workplace has one, they may offer mentoring or peer support from others who understand
     


 

This isn’t about intelligence. It’s about how your brain takes in and organises information. There are practical ways to manage this.


Tips and adjustments that may help:


  • Ask for written instructions instead of or alongside verbal ones
     
  • Request meeting agendas in advance so you can prepare and focus better
     
  • Use visual supports like diagrams, mind maps or whiteboards where possible
     
  • Record meetings or calls (with permission) so you can listen back later
     
  • Ask for follow-up emails that summarise key actions and deadlines
     
  • Use breaks between tasks to allow processing time before moving on
     

Software that might help:


  • Otter.ai – live transcription tool that creates written summaries of meetings and calls
     
  • Notion – great for organising notes, visual planning and breaking complex tasks into steps
     
  • MindMeister – mind mapping tool that helps turn ideas or tasks into clear visual formats
     
  • Speechify – text-to-speech software for people who process better by listening
     
  • Microsoft OneNote – easy way to tag, colour code and structure notes from multiple sources
     

You are not slower or less capable. You just process differently. Giving yourself time and using the right tools can make a huge difference to how you work and how confident you feel.


 

Organisation is not just about self-discipline. It’s often about finding a structure that works for your brain.


Tips and adjustments that may help:


  • Ask for task lists to be written down rather than delivered verbally
     
  • Break big tasks into smaller steps with timeframes attached
     
  • Use consistent deadlines and avoid last-minute changes where possible
     
  • Request regular check-ins to stay on track without having to chase
     
  • Clarify how urgent something really is and what the expectations are
     
  • Use visual schedules or colour coding to map out your week
     

Software and tools that might help:


  • Trello – a visual task board where you can drag and drop to-dos by priority or stage
     
  • Todoist – great for creating recurring tasks, reminders and breaking things into steps
     
  • Outlook Calendar – not just for meetings, but for blocking out time to do the actual work
     
  • Notion – useful for building dashboards or combining your to-do list and calendar in one place
     
  • Clockify – a time-tracking tool that helps identify how long tasks really take
     


 

Communication in law is full of unspoken rules. Whether it’s reading between the lines in emails, knowing when to speak in meetings or figuring out what’s “too much” or “too blunt,” it can be exhausting. Add in networking events or office chat, and it’s easy to feel like you’re getting it wrong just by showing up as yourself.


Tips and adjustments that may help:


  • Ask for communication preferences to be agreed early on (e.g. email over calls, written feedback instead of off-the-cuff comments)
     
  • Request written follow-ups to verbal instructions or meetings
     
  • Use email templates or draft messages in advance to reduce anxiety or reactivity
     
  • Set boundaries around social events, especially if you find them draining
     
  • Ask if you can attend networking events with a colleague or mentor, or for more structured formats (e.g. roundtables rather than mingling)
     
  • Let people know if you need time to process before responding – it’s okay to say “Let me think about that and get back to you”
     

Tools that might help:


  • Grammarly – can help with tone checking in emails or written comms
     
  • Hemingway Editor – good for simplifying messages or making sure they come across clearly
     
  • Speechify – helpful if you prefer to listen to long documents or emails rather than read them
     
  • Otter.ai – great for transcribing meetings or conversations that you want to review later
     
  • LinkedIn voice notes or email scheduling tools – can give you time to plan responses without the pressure of speaking live

     


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